Thank you redheadwife - your words mean a lot to me right now.
I absolutely need to stop trying to change his mind.. have been trying to do that for a long time and had been doing ok, but I know I messed up a lot last night with the "love is a choice" stuff.
He's so convinced that we wouldn't even be together or married if he "wasn't so passive" (I'm not sure what he means by that). He kept saying he couldn't tell me most of what was in his head because it would hurt too much. The "passive" thing was the closest he came to telling me any of it. I was asking him to tell me more last night but now I'm thinking it doesn't really matter anyway, it's just going to make me feel worse to hear it.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
