Is it time to push him? Need help for depressed H

[summerd]

Yes - he comes and hangs sometimes. I went ahead and took her advice. We had a long walk around the neighborhood and just talked. He revealed that he's "stuck," he doesn't like the negotiation process that goes on in a relationship and feels bad that he can't make a decision. He also revealed he doesn't feel comfortable in our house and likes his solitude. I listened a lot - when I questioned at the end of the conversation about whether some other model or arrangement might be more comfortable for him, he got stressed so I ended the conversation.
Today I took him to the airport - he hugged and kissed me goodbye. He hadn't done that in some time. I feel good about everything. Now I don't know what to do about his birthday and our anniversary!