Well, you need to get out of your head ASAP that "he doesn't want me." stuff. I understand how you are feeling about him still "caring" about you, etc., but still able to say he doesn't love you and doesn't want to even try to look at it differently, as in he could if he actually would put the negativity away and realize that it is a choice that he's making.
I guess you need to finally make a decision as to whether you want to keep trying to "help" him to change his mind or see the light or whatever.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10