w2s you hit the nail on the head with that post. I have studied my problem, did the reading on mlc and R issues. I understand that she will spew in order to bring me down, want what I want, and just make my life w/o her miserable, that is if I allow her to do that, won't happen. she has been driving this run away train since June and I say that is long enough. I have a plan, actually I have several plans depending how things fall. that falls back on my personality and being too organized with crap like that, but not to the point that I can't adapt to any giving sitch.
as for DBing, that all comes down to you being you. I understand that there is nothing I can do for her and do not plan on interfering with her journey. I will take care of my kids and their needs, and take care of what needs I have.
F1, pulled a muscle doing that kick boxing, must cross that one off my list of things i have tried once.
"Worry is the price you pay for most of the things in life that never happen"
Try yoga next. And meditation. Great for the calm mind and loose body. After that you might be surprised how easily the kickboxing would be; how high you can snap kick and roll into a good old cleansing roundhouse side kick. Of course there's always the fine art of whupping some cola into a glass with some bourbon! Hey, I can't promise you won't end up pulling another muscle ... but if you're lucky ... maybe it won't be yours!!!
make mine a captain and some of that cola, for the bourbon I take it neat. after a few of those I'll try the meditation, laying down more than likely!!!
"Worry is the price you pay for most of the things in life that never happen"
The mind of a MLCer. wants to keep everything she same for 5 years until kids are out of school. I don't like the idea. W wants to sell everything. I offer her the cottage, she thinks that I am kicking her out of the house. I offer her the house, she wants the cottage. No wait lets sell everything and she wants to move out. Ok, I offer to refi the house until sold to make things easier, in the mean time I have house appraised and set up appointment to get cottage appraised. she also want to sell both boats. so that it doesn't look like I am doing something wrong I give her all the boat info and where we bought them and ask that she get prices b/c I have buyer for one of them. which brings us to today. she wants cottage and boats, and from the sounds of it anything else she can get her hands on.
ping pong, and tennis come to mind with all this. lack of focus, or just playing the lets all be miserable together game. My god
No advise needed, just venting.
"Worry is the price you pay for most of the things in life that never happen"
What happens if you don't play the miserable game?
Are you okay with how things are now? I know that it can't be easy, in and out of the house...but can you continue with this? If not, can you just stay in the house and have her find her own place? Are financials an issue with this?
Are you the one wanting a resolution to the financial stuff, or her? I know you have said that you are done, but is it worth it now with the games she is playing? If it isn't, be still. If it is, let the games begin.....
