A further update: H told me this morning that he did not go to work yesterday, afterall. I had my suspcions that he didn't go and he confirmed it today. He also did not go today. I'm trying to just be nonchalant about the whole thing as I don't want to put further pressure on him. He said that he drank a little too much on Monday night and ended up text messaging OW in the middle of the night. They exchanged a few TM's and because of that he hasn't wanted to go to work at all. I'm thankful that he finally told the truth and annoyed that he is resorting to lying to me, yet again.
Sara - I couldn't agree with you more. That principal is well aware of the situation and is doing nothing to help. He's actually making it worse. I don't want my H to loose his job, but I can't be the one that saves it for him. He has to do it. (I'm writing this so that I can reminded myself of that). That part is difficult for me. I never feel good about myself when I'm avoiding something, I can't imagine that H feels great about himself right now.
Limbo - I usually ask H to dialogue. I will say something like, Hey, do you wanna dialogue tonight? and his response has been "we'll see. Maybe." And that's it. I've only asked about 4 times in the last week. I don't want to pressure him or force him...maybe I should? We dialgued almost every night up until last Wednesday. And then on Thursday it all fell apart.
He said that he wants to go to Retro tonight, so we're going. It didn't go well last week, but hopefully it will be different today. He says it's beneficial and helping him. I don't know what to do. I feel helpless. I think he wants so badly to do the right thing and is just struggling with how to get there, how to do it, how to make the choices. There moments when he says, I know what to do, I guess I just have to do it.
Ladies thanks for the encouragement. You guys rock!
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
