Thanks for your beautiful post. You eloquently and movingly captured a lot of why I am still hanging in there with my wife, even down to the Disney reference! Last summer my wife and I had a wonderful trip to Disneyworld. In many ways I feel it was the last time we really felt a sense of fun and connection together. If we do reconcile, I'd like to make a trip to Disney one of the first things we do.
I've been out of the house four months and she still won't talk about us. Doesn't say divorce, doesn't say reconciliation. Just doesn't say anything at all. Friends and family have urged me to get "tough" with her and push for at least some sign of commitment, but I know that will only backfire for now. We can't go on like this forever, but for now I'll do what you are doing and wait. Her lack of love or attention hurts, but like you I feel my wife is my best friend, and that despite my mistakes and flaws she's also going through something far deeper and bigger than my shortcomings as a husband.
Thanks for lifting my spirits. I will read your words often, and I hope and pray for a favorable outcome for you and others who are keeping the faith. We're not naive, but we are also not folks who will walk out when times get tough.
