Thanks for starting this thread. We've talked a lot about how the connected MLCer finds his way back, but it seems it's a different path for the Drop-out. It sounds like the drop-out does the journey on his own, and when he/she is ready to connect, he is fully ready. I had more of the angry, connected MLCer ( like MrsH's H, although her H takes the cake). My feeling is that there is hope for the marriage in ANY situation, but beyond that, the LBS can move forward with a richer self awareness and love. I have to say, before my H's MLC, I always had low self esteem; his rejection of me initially made me feel worse, but over time I began to think, " hey, I am not THAT bad," which then moved to, " hey, I am pretty cool, even with my flaws." I know now I will never sell myself short again, and that is a priceless lesson to learn.
Just hoping in the future I get to learn lessons an easier way.
