Aw jak - boy can I relate, as you know. It's exhausting sometimes (ok, a lot of the time).
I am a very patient person but geez, there's only so much patience you can have.
Glad you're finding time to take care of yourself, as well. It's way too easy to forget that part and fall back into old habits. Like you said, hopefully he'll see what he may miss out on (and oh yeah - you get back to being YOU, that's the best part!).
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Since I have upped my GAL activities I am starting to feel better again. I had backed off on my own things as h was wanting a lot more of my time.
H has been more clingy since i am spending more time on me but, this time I am not going to stop doing for me just to do with him . He gets enough of me im'e sure. Maybe now he'll also see that he misses me when im'e not there all the time. I do tell him where i am going since i think i owe him that because we do still live together and we are trying to put this M back together but, i am as vague as i can be about it.
I do think (when my menopause isn't kicking in) that H does know what he wants but is still of course trying to find his way. If he doesn't it is his loss, and I will know if and when that happens as iv'e been pretty intuitive so far i think.
So he still has work to do. He also has to learn to communicate more to me.
Today I am feeling so much better just to be me.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
How are you doing. Just stopped by for a visit. I really don't know where I belong anymore. I have come a long way but I am so confused at what I want. Am I piecing? I don't know. Can one spouse piece without the other? Is my W changed since the letter because she wants to be a better "Friend"? Sorry for taking up space just thinking out loud.
Take care Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I have been following your thread you are doing well. Are you confused at what you want in the R or at what you want for you?
Sounds to me like w is trying to work on her issues at least. I would stay where you are until she at least make some sort of commitment towards the M verbally but, that is my OP. She hasn't yet has she? I didn't miss something in your thread did I .
By the way the ring thing is way cool. Congrats.
JAK
MAT,
(((((hugs)))))
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
I have been following your thread you are doing well. Are you confused at what you want in the R or at what you want for you?
Sounds to me like w is trying to work on her issues at least.
Thanks, I am confused at both the R and M. But..... Yes my w was talking to me about taking some "job workshop" classes. She wants to take (resume writing, interviewing) and then she said she also needs to take a "self esteem" class. I do think my W is trying but It is hard not to (in my mind) think there is an artier motive. No intimacy. No physical contact initiated by her.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I think if there was a motive for what she is doing then she wouldn't be moving toward a more friendly R with you, and wearing her rings at all for that matter. You have seen positives don't let your negative thoughts sabotage the progress that has been made.
Did she accept your Hug yesterday?
What did you write in your letter to your W i missed it?
J
Last edited by jak58; 10/12/0712:48 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
I do tell him where i am going since i think i owe him that because we do still live together and we are trying to put this M back together but, i am as vague as i can be about it.