Hi jmw, no the ex has made no excuse why he hasn't contacted son, he didn't speak to him for 3 months last year as they had a little fight, yes son was only 12 and his dad had him a fight, he called at xmas to see him and we had all the tear job with ex saying he was really glad he had son back and all that, then he took him on a break end march as he said he could sense son was frustrated by something, hello! could it be his dad, they went away and son says it was all for getting him to see her, his dad had said he wanted to see more of him but he had to see her, son won't see her and has no intentions of, ex looks on it as I have poisoned his son, hello again! could he have done it, so he took him to his training one night just after they had got back and he left him there and hasn't been in contact since, apart from a birthday card that says "love you and miss you", well why doesnt' he do something about it then. When I arrived at court I went through the scanning area that you mentioned, yes it was like going through the security at the airport, then my solicitor looked at the boards to see which courtroom we were in, then we sat outside the courtroom, my solicitor, barrister, trainee solicitor and trainee barrister all sat chatting, must have looked good that I had four representing me but he won't have known what they all were, then his solicitor arrived and went outside looking for him as he was still in the reception area, they both came into the waiting lounge area, then the door opened by one of the court ushers and we were asked to go in, we all sat at one long table, them on one end and us on the other, when the judge was coming in, we all had to stand, and then the judge asked them to commence and his solicitor stood up and said what boat load of lies he had to say and then it was our turn, I think it only lasted about 10 mins, but during those minutes I just thought how sad it was that the man I loved all those years, the father of my child, and I, had to be in a courtroom to sort out the mess he's made and the fact that he couldn't look at me or talk to me to sort things out like adults do, suppose he can't do that because of the guilt, or because he thought he would win hands down, my solicitor rang yesterday to say he really doesn't want to go back to court on monday and if she can get them to agree our terms it will be pulled out for now, he wanted to go to court you know he started the ball rolling and now he doesnt' want to play at those games, also heard he isn't working again. hope that helps you , when do you go to court, let me know, and don't forget to hold your head high, you've done nothing wrong and you aren't going to be served a jail sentence, how long is it since your ex spoke to your kids, it kills me to think how they can just cut contact like they have and still look in the mirror, take care and hugs.
