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Did my W ever come to me before her A and tell me we were in trouble - Nope. It was the exact opposite that occured. Through out our M all I heard was how much she loved me and our family. Now the story is much different


Wow Scott. So true. Here's a small example. We bought a new Trailblazer last fall, to be my car. I felt bad, because it was my 2nd new car in a short time, and H always bought used cars for himself and kept them up on his own. I told him so, that I didn't need a new car at all, didn't care. He signed the papers without me, saying I deserved this car, he wanted me to have it, etc. NOW, he says I always got what I wanted, and he suffered with second best so we didn't go into debt. It was a marriage of convenience for me, and I was selfish. UGH

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I reassured her that neither of us were going away and that we both loved her and her sister.


This is the most important thing you could say. I think you did super well, dealing with them. I feel so bad for dads who don't choose this, want to be involved, can't bear being away from them one single night. \:\( There are sooo many dads out there that walk away, and here you are, wanting nothing of that. SO not fair.