Cat, Limbo and LWB - thank you! I appreciate your thoughts and words of wisdom!
Update H went back to work on Thursday. When he came home he didn't say two words about his day, and I can see us slipping back into old patterns. H drinking more, not coming to bed at normal time, not completing the Retro dialogues, eating out rather than at home, I think this is all his deal and what is going on with him and OW. When I began the process of going to Retro in August, I said that I would use it as a time to really decide if I would stay or go. I thought that if H really put time and effort into applying the pricinples that we learn then it would ultimately help us. We haven't dialogued all week, we haven't really spoken about our R all week and I feel as though we are slipping further away from each other, rather than closer. However, earlier in the week H said that he has never felt closer to me and has never wanted this to work out more. I just still feel so distant from him. I'm trying not to concentrate on OW and the work situation, but I have this sinking feeling that he's going to, or is, being roped back into her life and he isn't able to free himself. I'm trying to provide all the distance he needs, I don't know if I'm doing a great job at it, but I'm trying. I can't live like this indefinitely and H can.
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
