Thanks for your post. Yes, that slogan on the tea bag is true! I went canoing last night with a group from work. Very fun to be on a lake at night away from the city. Stars were amazing!
I just was over at the new place, and I finally unveiled my new sheets and comforter. I had stuffed them into the corner of the old place waiting to use them when I moved, and now that they are on the bed I feel better. They look good. Will sleep on them for the first time tonight. Funny how something as simple as a new set of sheets helps at a time like this. On the way home I stopped by and picked up a couple of pieces of art at Kohl's that I liked. Felt good to do so. You are absolutely right about spending some $, within reason, to make ourselves happy. Wife is still spending like crazy, as far as I can tell. In about three weeks, after the next round of bills come in, we are going to have to deal with that. She's not going to like it, but I've had enough. I can't jeopardize my future, not to mention 11 years of financial prudence, with her going nuts for a few months. The only reason I'm waiting is that I've spent some money too. As far as I'm concerned, she can pay for "half" my concert tickets, meditation retreat in January, deposits on the apartment, etc.
Keep up your good work, and keep posting. You've helped me more than you know. I'm glad to hear you are doing so well. It's critical for us not to get dragged down by our spouses. It's hard some days, because I still believe, but I'm getting better and better at detaching and at the same time empathy. I remain convinced that behind her spending is a deep depression. She also briefly mentioned on the phone a couple days ago she had taken a couple of days off and was crying during that time. So, while at times I'm furious with her I still have empathy.
Take care, and make it a good day by giving joy to yourself and others.
