has anybody had a WAS totally cut off contact for months, aqnd then come back to the marriage? If so, was there somehting that happened to jumop start communication?
Wantlove,
First, Sweetheart was a Drop-In, so he did not drop contact. BUT...I know it seems long, but two months is not a long time. You may have a Dropout. Or not. Each individual has his or her own cycle...for whatever in life. In MLC Sweetheart's cycle was calling a lot the first week was gone (he came and went 6X). But I did not answer or respond. So for the next 2-3 weeks he would drop contact possibly with tidbits of mean testing or pestering calls. Then he would be back to contacting me and wanting to do things together. In the slightly bigger picture he was a 3-monther. Home 3 months, OW 3 months...repeat. His 2-3 weeks of sort of avoiding contact--with little jabs--may be shorter than most, I think 3-monthers may also be shorter than most.
MLCers need space. For some that means a complete lack of contact. And maybe that lack of contact would be beneficial to others...but instead many Drop-In and perhaps this slows their progress.
Sweetheart and I do not have children yet either. That worried me early on. But place your Faith in your relationship and your bond. The bond is with you.
And some MLCers are Dropouts...they can go months without contacting the LBS...and even kids--regardless of whether the kids are adults or young children.
Put your Trust and Faith in your MLCer and in God...that this space is helping him sort through this crisis. All is good, we just need to adjust our attitudes.
