Hi and welcome. I just went on your link to read up. WOW you have been a major rock in this whole thing. Good job. I have 2 daughters, 3 and 5 too, aren't they just the very best? My reason to smile these days.
If you aren't SICK of affair books, Not Just Friends is a very good one.
TAL is a wonderful resource and gave the advice I would give. Detach BIG time, but do it with respect and lovingly. You have the be the rock, for your kids and for your very confused wife. I would also never contact OM again. It wasn't getting what you wanted (answers) and he is a nimwad anyway.
