I am happy to hear that you are finally moving into your new place. Think of it as a new beginning, a new chapter in life where you get to control how happy you can be. don't worry about spending a few bucks on the stuff for your apt. as long as it is not out of control - most books recommend the time of separation to be an ideal time to rejuvenate your spirit with little things that you gave up on during marriage. give yourself the permission to indulge in little things to cheer yourself up.
today I had a school conference for my DD in kindergarten. i came in to the classroom and saw the teacher with somebody and I stepped out thinking it was not our time yet. The teacher came out and asked me "couldn't you recognize your wife"? I said "no" and I think I did mean it! I feel good about how I have been lovingly detaching from her. I don't try to figure out what she is doing and and I don' get upset thinking of her anymore. she may be in MLC limbo land, but not me.
I just spotted a saying on my tea bag thing - "A love without friendship is like a castle on a sand". Isn't that so true?
