The Zoo of the Surreal

[MJontheMend]

Well, I think women start not-trusting you when you start doing things not-trustworthy.

I guess the question is what is his experience with past gf's (and your) positions re trusting him:

1) She starts out trusting me at level 10 when she first meets me and subtracts points as I do untrustworthy things and then bolts when the total reaches 0

or

2) She starts out trusting me at 0 and I have to earn her trust over a period of time. When it reaches 10 (or 5 or 7 or something), I'll fcuk her

or

3) She starts out at 5 and adds or subtracts points depending on what I do, with the net total after some long-ish period of time determining whether she sticks around or whether I fcuk her

Well, as I indicated previously, GP has been in 5 LTRs. I have the partial low-down on some of them.

1) Mother of 24 year old son. Female body builder. Didn't want to marry but he lived with/supported her due to kid. Was in love with her at one point. Expressed his love with gifts. She stole money from him repeatedly so he dumped her and fought for and gained custody of their son which he won.

2) Mother of 12 year old son. Total slacker. Wouldn't work. Wouldn't do housework. Handed off kid to him as soon as he got home from work. He offered her $50,000 in settlement if she would just leave and agree to amicable joint custody. She refused. Lengthy expensive court battle ensued but he was awarded sole custody of son. She is currently wanted for child neglect in the state in which she resides because she is 10 months behind in paying the support she owes him which is $17.50 a week. We have bonded a bit over this issue. GP actually gave me a lecture about how I really should be more pro-active about going after my 2bx for the support he owes because it personally p*sses him off when men do that sh*t because it makes it harder for men in general to win custody cases etc.

3) Last girlfriend. Mostly quite good relationship. GP says things went sour because "She mistook my kindness for weakness." GP suggested counseling. She quit counseling and became quite disrespectful so GP felt he had no choice but to move on. I think he was really hoping that she would be the one he would finally marry.