Is it time to cut him off?

[Dom R]

I have no desire to interact with someone who acts like I am an annoyance/inconvenience.

Weeelll.... if you were going the "standard" route, the detachment theory woudl suggest you should just let it go.

However, the (apparently mostly working) relationship dynamic you seem to have with your husband, would suggest that you just tell him straight out, "you're being a butthead to me today; i think i'll go spend my time with someone who is nice to me".

the tricky bit, is in separating actual bad behaviour towards you, from "i'm not committed yet" behaviour.

there IS a difference between "treating you like an annoyance", vs "not agreeing to be committed to you yet", do you agree?


'cause if you insist on ["I'm fully committed" behaviour from him otherwise you get pissy at him]... that's just a semi-subtle twist on "demanding commitment right now".