Here we go 'round in circles...

[Rob1231]

Reading over what I just wrote, I realized I wasn't clear about something. It sounded in your earlier post like H only sees two possibilities:

1. Stay where he is forever, unhappy.

2. Quit and THEN go out looking for a new job.

Obviously, the third option is the one he should be pursuing.

3. Starting planning and looking for a new job, and THEN quit.

That's how most people would approach this. If H doesn't "get" it, then help him "get" it.

One other thing - something you didn't address at all, but I had to wonder. Isn't LW at his current job? Is there an undercurrent here, even a small one, that part of the reason for this job change is for H to distance himself from her - because he knows that would please you?