He probably will be working w/ her. They are instructors though so they aren't constantly together or anything. I thought he was going to get transfered to teaching a different class and would not be in the same building as her, but it looks like that is not going to happen.
Like I said, even if she had not gotten married, I don't think I would be too worried about her. But then again, I probably wouldn't like the idea too much either. At least since she's married, I won't be as insecure about it.
I'm hoping that what will happen is that he will see her again and think "what the h*ll was I THINKING?" He seems very sincere in the fact that he very much loves me and is happy that we're together, so I just have to stick to thinking positive things and continue just worrying about working on our M and not worrying so much about the outside influences. If things are good at home, I figure he doesn't need to look outside anymore.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Just read about your physical problems. I had similar problems. I had the ablation in January. So far it seems to be working, but not dramatically. Sorry you have to go for the larger surgery. At least the vaginal kind has short recuperation time. Good luck with it.
He's going to do it laparoscopically so it's a bit more than just doing it vaginally, however, he wants to check my ovaries to make sure I don't have endometriosis. If he sees something, he'll take my ovaries too. He said if he does and I do have to start on hormones, it's really not that big of a deal and I trust him on that. We'll see what he finds and ends up having to do. It's a little more recoup time this way, however, at least we'll get it all done in one surgery instead of finding out later that he should have taken the ovaries too.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
so I just have to stick to thinking positive things and continue just worrying about working on our M and not worrying so much about the outside influences. If things are good at home, I figure he doesn't need to look outside anymore.
Definitely don't worry. I think it's better to be strong in yourself and fully know your family is the very best place for him to be... and if he were to forget that it would be a huge loss for him. The nice thing about D and a WAS almost compltely losing their families is they know the cost... and when they return it's because they realize it's not worth it.
I imagine running into OW would probably be very uncomfortable and awkward for both of them.
Good luck with the surgery.... a good friend of mine went through similar surgery this summer. She was a little worried, but seems to be doing really well. She also seemed to have a pretty quick recovery.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I'm feeling like I'm PMS'ing, very emotional, but I think I'm just a little worried/concerned about my surgery which is coming up on Monday.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
That's natural to be worried about surgery. It's always a little frightening. But you are soooo strong. You've made it through so much. I have faith in that.
Uh... PMS.... I had that the other day. My H and I were driving to a birthday party and I turned into super bit@h towards the end of the drive. We argued, things deteriorated, and I even STUPIDLY said stuff like, "Well, you never got angry at HER? But you get angry with me." And then he gets that ???? look, realizes I'm talking about OW and says, "How come you need to rub my nose in that?"
So we both stopped talking for awhile and I finally turned and said, "That was so stupid of me to get mad about about absolutely nothing. I'm really sorry." And he said, "Hey, I'm sorry I got so mad and yelled at you." (He didn't actually yell, he just rasied his voice).
Anyhow, we were fine after that. We both made up and had a great time. The next day I realized my crankiness had been a bit of PMS. So... perhaps you are PMSing? I never pay attention to my cycle. Although it would probably good if I did.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I'm Just the same. My H always knows when I am due and suffering from PMS - I never do. And of course if he points out that that is why I may be ratty then god help him.......the fur starts flying!!!!!!!
Red,
At least with the surgery coming around so quickly you are not going to have too long to get yourself in a frenzy about it and this way you should be well recovered by the time H returns.
((((HUGS))))))
I know it's not a nice thing to contemplate. Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Thanks guys. For some reason, I'm just not thrilled w/ the idea of being put under this time. Usually it doesn't bother me.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
