Down and out...need hope.

[Rob1231]

Arghh...amazing how they can make tearing up a family sound almost pleasant. Her dad would give you money for a house? Either he REALLY likes you...or REALLY hates you.

A much more likely scenario: Her dad has nothing to do with it and is not on board. Remember, we're dealing with alien spew here!

W to FIL: Tostada agrees we should split up and is ready to move out, but just needs some money to make it happen.

W to T: My dad agrees we should split up and is ready to chip in financially so we can make it happen.

See how BOTH spewisms are bogus???

Anyway, that her drinking has leveled off might be a positive sign. The first hint my wife was softening was she stopped staying out as late, as often and eased off on getting drunk. Try not to nag your wife about going out or drinking. Try not to even ask about her going out or drinking. Sometimes I think they do it not to GAL but to punish us in a round about way. Once her going out stops having an effect on you, she might stop doing it so much.

More likely, going out and hitting the bars is not a sign of Getting A Life - do you really think everyone who hits the bars is happy and growing? I think not!

However, I also disagree about doing it to punish the WAS - it's all about THEM, not about US at all. Don't over analyze what crazy people do, it is a waste of time!