Would you say the divorce was hard on your son? Before the divorce, was there a lot of "yoyoing" in your marriage; i.e. either of you leaving or threatening to leave? Perhaps he has worries about the situation. Maybe he doesn't know what's going on and is afraid to hope for a reconciliation because if things don't work out he'd have to go through the pain again.
One thing I did make clear to my husband is if he came back he'd have to stay minimally until the youngest was 18. I couldn't have the kids go through that type of instability and pain again.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
