or, you can fall back to the "blow up and demand commitment" way. It has "worked" for some people. It might even work for your husband, after you shut him out for a while.
It's not so much that I want to demand commitment, per se. I just think that I am being used as a spare tire until he can find the brand new tire that strikes his fancy. And THEN how am I going to feel? Fricking Used, that's how! He said it all when he said that "So far" we were dating exclusively. If that isn't code for "until I find something more compelling", I don't know what is.
What I want to "demand" is to not be second fiddle to a fantasy woman who is yet to appear. Now that the same refrain has come up ("I don't know what it's like to feel completely broken up with you or be independent in the house") I can see the writing on the wall.
Okay, agreed. Too much focus on the WAS. I grew accustomed to his presence, liked it too much. Enjoyed doing fun stuff on the weekend and didn't want to schedule home showings on the *one* day he would be at the available. My bad.
I think I should stop the sex, at this point.
Morgan made a good point when she said she wasn't sure what I wasn't willing to put up with.
Dom, I like the point the focus doesn't equal tunnel vision. Regarding sticking it out for the 3 months; I suppose I can do that- provided he doesn't keep acting like he has these last couple of times together. I have no desire to interact with someone who acts like I am an annoyance/inconvenience.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
