Thanks for this - you are right, it is jus tthat I have been doing this for such a long time, with such a difficult MLCer.
I know that there is someting wrong with him - his kids used to adore him, and they feel he has changed beyond all knowing. It is hard to keep up compassion 24/7, especially when tired and with a bad cold.
I know it is totally about him: I would hate to be him with his cardboard cut out life, when he could have been having a rich full life with a family that adored him. I am not gloating about that . . . .
