Is it time to cut him off?

[Dom R]

I don't know if I can make it the rest of October before pulling the plug.

Ya know what this usually means? It usually means the lbs is focusing too much on their spouse,and so gets depressed when they dont respond in kind.

In other words, this is your wake-up call to get back to Get A Life

You started the whole thing that way, and things went well for you. Now, seems like you've mostly rewired your schedule around him, and he finds you "not a challege" any more, and so I suppose "boring" or something.

So, I definately echo what Nikki said, about "focus on YOU for 3 weeks"... just not to the extreme of shutting out your husband.

The key word is "focus". You can have your "focus" on you, but still be open to other things that wander across your view. ie: "focus" doesnt have to mean "tunnel vision"

I think you did great on bringing up the whole "you're not dating me" issue to your husband, and obviously, he does too!

Seems like, from the conversation you had with your husband yesterday, that you are in a kind of "process" with him.
You had a discussion with him ("why are you so busy?" "hmm, you're right"), and it was a fairly rational one.

I'm guessing that, rather than having a sudden "revalation" where everything is magically perfect from then on... you're going to have a series of conversations with him, where you and he discuss the finer points of how you'd like your relationship to be.

that's the patient road, anyways. I think if you can stick to it,then perhaps you can jointly nudge things onto a road that both of you are happy with.

or, you can fall back to the "blow up and demand commitment" way. It has "worked" for some people. It might even work for your husband, after you shut him out for a while.
Here's the thing though:
You made an agreement. 3 months.
If you cant stick to this agreement, then that will be taken by him as evidence that you cant stick to any future agreement either.
So you gotta stick out the 3 months if you want credibility to him.