And how to you feel about this: Do you want to be with a man you can trust if he says it's all right to follow him into an alley filled with homeboys?
Who wouldn't? However, I believe that it isn't all that easy to get there. Stupid fears and hidden mechanisms to overcome. Therefore, I wonder if you can really ever trust anyone but yourself or what I really mean is I wonder if you can ever trust anyone beyond the level that you trust yourself. Sometimes I might behave as though I trust a man but really I'm just being foolhardy/bold or excitement-seeking. Other times I might act like I trust a man but really I've got my own back covered and an extra gun hidden in my bra. Even if I really, truly do believe that I trust a man isn't it the case that what I am really, truly trusting is my judgment? OTOH, if I put aside judgment in favor of faith, it seems to me that my trust is no longer in the individual man but rather in the ideal of how I should trust in a relationship. I will choose to trust a man simply because I believe that trusting a man is the right thing to do and I am willing to take the risk of the alley over the risk of a faithless relationship. Realistically, I believe that there must be some sort of balance between well-founded trust and well-meaning faith.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
