After re-reading my original post, I recognize that it did come across as desperate and needy. I was so low that I did not want to hear anything except that "it's not too late".
I acknowledge that I have a lot of work to do on myself. But, because I learned about DB'ing so late, I need to learn all the DB strategies and techniques quickly. I read many success stories, but all of them involved couples who were on the brink of separation, or in the process of divorce. I had hoped to pick up some suggestions from others who had successfully reconciled after being divorced a year or more.
Until I heard from those folks, I was too depressed to be able to implement the other suggestions. Of course, I need to improve myself for my own sake--but because my XW only started dating again within the past couple months, I'm feeling a lot more pressure to put a plan together NOW. I want to give her reason to pause BEFORE she gets seriously involved with anyone she is dating.
Recommendations regarding what to say & do, and what to AVOID when I have any interaction with my XW is what I hope to learn first. I know there's nothing that I can say to make her love me at this point. But, if I can at least get her to notice a positive difference in me, that might intrigue her enough not to shut me out completely.
Are these unrealistic expectations?
A successful man earns more than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who marries such a man.Married men live longer than single men, but married men are a lot more willing to die.
