The Zoo of the Surreal

[MJontheMend]

This guy is putting you through your paces... not in a bad way... it's kind of a "I'm going => THIS => way. \:\) Keep up. Or not. \:\) Either way is fine with me."

I believe that you've hit the nail on the head here. Remember the man is a total lifelong jock/coach type.

I think your very best strategy with this guy is to be completely, 100% honest. Or at least as much as you can (sometimes you can't be honest with someone if you don't yet know yourself, kwis?) So when he says stuff like

"Do you think that you'll ever trust a man enough to get married again?"

and you don't quite what to make of that... say it. Or tell him... "I don't know yet. I'd like to think I will... I'm still healing..." or whatever your truth is.

I agree. I think my answer to him was kind of in the abstract because I am unsure. Kind of like "Here's what I think is true" rather than "Here's my true answer." I said something like " I would like to be in a loving and committed relationship for all the obvious reasons and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a man I didn't trust or was unwilling to trust because it wouldn't be fair to him and in the long run I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a man who didn't WANT to marry me although I can imagine there might be valid reasons why that might not be the form the relationship might take."