Thanks a ton for your response. Yours is exactly the type of message I had hoped to see. Your advice is quite reasonable. I know that you are right on about the negativity and judgmentalism being a turn-off. I wish I had a shock collar two years ago; I might not be in this situation.
We still have not received the Family Court Judge's final ruling on the ex parte order I was hit with. I suspect that it will restore my visitation rights with my kids, but it may sustain the "no contact" provisions for my XW. Accordingly, In the past week, I have limited my contact with my X to one short text message, sent last night.
I sent her a note apologizing for all my "nasty-grams", acknowledging that they were stupid and counterproductive. I invited her to call me directly whenever she needed to talk about the kids. (She had been using my daughter as a conduit between us.) I promised to be kind and polite. I also asked whether I could do anything to help with regards to some medical problems she has been suffering. It was a complete 180 in tone from everything I had hit her with over the past two months, but I don't want to go too far the other way, lest she see me as too "needy".
I don't have any problem forgiving everything--even though I feel pretty victimized right now. I could even make myself forget; I would be happy to attribute all the bad memories as nothing but a vivid nightmare. (Maybe that shows how desperate I am to get us back together.)
--DMW
A successful man earns more than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who marries such a man.Married men live longer than single men, but married men are a lot more willing to die.
