All hope is lost/help

[RedHeadWife]

Hey, sweetie, you need to do what's best for YOU. If H living in the house was not working for you, then he does need to leave and either decide he wants to work out your M or not. In the long run, it will be for the best, I believe. Either he will realize what he is losing or you will be able to seriously "move on" without him.

I don't think you "broke all DB rules." There is a point where you are not willing to try anymore either and you have reached that point.

I have actually looked at a lot of sitch's lately and not understood how people could allow their H/W's to treat them they way they are -- with such disrespect. Now, granted, my sitch is pretty good right now, and I know that you never know how you will react to a sitch until you are in it yourself, but allowing yourself to be a doormat and allowing total disrespect and complete rudeness from your spouse is not "ok" in my book. I'm not saying that is how h is being to you right now, I'm just saying that, at some point, there needs to be a line drawn in the sand and you have done that. Either he is willing to work on your M, or he needs to leave and figure out what he wants.