Yes, that was what I meant. As for him actually being overtly controlling, I have no idea. I don't know the man. From bits and pieces Mo is dropping, I am developing this feeling. There are also things that trigger Mo's 'cow.' To me, that is habitual response, for she doesn't HAVE a cow... sounds to me like ALL her animals are sitting real still, because they are all hungry, and getting fed the food they LOVE...
I think GP is more "in control" than "controlling." I believe he would definitely "dump" me rather than try to control or change me and that actually makes him seem like somebody "safe" with whom to be in relationship. He has had 5 major adult relationships but has never been married (although he did leave a bride at the altar in his early 20s.) so his experience is very different than mine. I really don't know what to make of the fact that he isn't really opposed to marriage but he just feels that things went sour in his previous relationships before he was ready to commit at that level. He asks me things like "Do you think that you'll ever trust a man enough to get married again?" and I don't know quite what to make of that either.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
