If you're saying that an overtly controlling man is just as difficult to have a relationship with, then that statement makes more sense to me.
Yes, that was what I meant. As for him actually being overtly controlling, I have no idea. I don't know the man. From bits and pieces Mo is dropping, I am developing this feeling. There are also things that trigger Mo's 'cow.' To me, that is habitual response, for she doesn't HAVE a cow... sounds to me like ALL her animals are sitting real still, because they are all hungry, and getting fed the food they LOVE...
However, having said all that... there is nothing wrong with getting fed, as long as she doesn't start treating her swan like a cow again... then she's going to start getting food she doesn't really like, and might not know what happened...
