Mojo, it's really good that you're exploring all of these different sides of yourself by dating different types of guys. That's certainly a positive thing (and a very strong argument to really young people against dating one person through high school/college and then marrying that person without seriously dating anyone else-- not that that CAN'T work out). Different people mirror back to you different aspects of yourself and that can only be a good thing.
P.S This guy does not sound very bright. Bad speller. Cryptic metaphors. You said he treats you like a pet, but is he the slow gentle giant type who is really YOUR pet?
ETA: This paragraph was at the link that Fran provided (my emphasis):
"Love and Desire
"Loving somebody and wanting them aren’t the same either. If you want someone you don’t know, it’s not love. It’s lust or longing. In itself, lust is a healthy feeling, but, alone, it doesn’t signify a healthy, or viable, relationship. Desire is a feeling between mature people who love each other. Even when there is initial attraction, it develops over time. Much confusion arises in relationships between love and desire. You may love someone dearly, but not want them. Remember what I said about behaviour? You may not like their behaviour or lifestyle. They may not turn you on sexually. Love itself does not make a viable romantic partnership. You also need to be compatible on many levels."
We definitely have some of that going on in R's on this BB.
