Oh Scott, I think about this daily. Am I really THAT much to blame for the rockiness of the M before the A? Obviously, H could have said "NO" to the A and really approached me to tell me we were in serious trouble. So, I won't take any blame for that. He never once told me how unhappy he was until after the A started. Coincidence? I don't think so. I think he did a bit of history twisting to justify what he was doing.
Like you, I am not the perfect wife, far from it. I've been selfish in the past, and I realize that. But I feel now that I didn't do many of things he claims I did. Problem is, H doesn't see it that way, and that is what matters when it comes to fixing things. I know what I did, but he won't hear it. No amount of debating will change his mind at the moment, so I don't even try.
Your W really missed out on a nice memory by skipping the game. I see what you mean about you being more disappointed than D. I suppose that's good because we want them to be hurt the least. I can't believe she is justifying pushing the divorce by saying the kids would be better off. Classic defense though, textbook.
