ha ha ha - you MUST be kidding!

[*KS*Chick*]

KS,
A friend told me about a study where they had people write out how they feel, especially their anger. They were told to write without editing themselves, to write everything the felt and thought, no matter how horrible. The control group was told to just write about their day. The test group had such great results that they stopped the control group and told them to write theire feelings too.

The idea is to write, uncensored, and get the anger out. I recommend it. How about giving it a try. You'll probably never want to let anyone read it, but it'll work - I think.

I know you've already come a long way, but you've got some anger (who wouldn't?). I think you'll feel better when your past that too.

Just like you're doing, don't have anything to do with him beyond what you legally have to, or have to for your d's sake. I know you're already doing this but, don't bad mouth him to your D, don't play his games, especially if peanut is in the middle. I know you know and are doing this, just some support offered to you.

Not that this is important, but I think that as you get stronger, care about him less, even stop being angry, he'll want you more and more. Don't let him trick you. He may want you just because to prove he can get you. I'm not saying never let him back into your heart (heck, we are on DB boards. It could happen, It could even be good, right?) but don't let him affect or control you.

In fact, I would stop asking about checks clearing, or anything else, and let the lawyers, courts and such do the job.

My 2 cents worth.

I started a journal when "the plan" came about and have been venting thoroughly in there up until about three weeks ago. It does help to see it in black and white.

Thanks for that advice.

Right now I'm just sitting on my hands, waiting for the packet to arrive at my house so I can start this child support enforcement process. I'm done being "nice" or being rolled over as the case truly is....