But I can not spend qualtity time with her since she doesn't want to see me plus she is 4.5 hrs away.
That is a problem, but what part of QT does it for her? For some people (I think especially women), the QT is being given the opportunity to talk and be heard. If she calls you up, be very willing to just listen and indicate understanding. If she can feel heard, it might feed that LL some.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
