posted above as I know it was getting long and I didn't want to lose it. So it got to the poing where because son doesn't want to play happy families with him and his new wife, ex has decided that he wants to sell this place as he can't afford to pay the mortgage, well that is hard lines, he shouldn't have taken a large slice of cake if he can't eat it, ex also supposedly has his own business and I have been contacted by the child support people to say that they would like me to pursue him as they believe he is diverting money so he doesn't have to pay me, any how it got to the point of us actually going to court, first off he said I owed him loads of money for rent, but on the day changed this to the fact that I was trespassing, I arrived for court all done up like a dogs dinner, as if ex had been ex he would have turned up in his suit, no he turned up dead scruffy, he sat in the waiting area behind a post so that when I came in I couldn't see him, his body language was brilliant, and this is something that you too should take note of, he sat bent over so that he was looking at the floor and so he didn't have to acknowledge me, I just glanced and noticed he was there and carried on my way with my head held high, laughing and joking with my solicitor and my friend who had come along for support, whilst I was waiting in the hallway ready to go in the courtroom, ex came in with his solicitor he was walking behind, he was walking with his head dead fixed on looking straight ahead and avoiding looking at me, but he managed to sit in front of me but with his back turned, in the courtroom he was very very nervy and my friend and barrister both picked up on this, the judge was a woman, and he won't have liked that, when his solicitor read his case the judge instantly rejected that I was trespassing and moved swiftly to her what my solicitor had to say, we were granted time to put in our claim under the childrens act and it is on Monday that I again have to go to court for this hearing, I was very surprised when his new wife wasn't with him as they are joined at the hip. I couldn't and still cannot believe it as got to the point of me and ex in a courtroom thrashing our lives out in front of complete strangers. My barrister as said since the hearing that he wasn't pleased how it had gone, I suppose he thought they would listen to his case and throw me and his son out and that would be the end of us I also believe that he wouldn't have thought I would turn up at the court. since then my solicitor has said that he is backing down and would now like to offer me a percentage of the selling price and to settle out of court as there is no need for all the expensive court costs, but hello it was him that wanted to go to court, from what I saw I know he felt really un-nerved in the courtroom and I handled it well, you see I haven't and never did anything wrong, this man as caused it all himself, he must have felt as guilty as hell, before all this if he saw me he would make a beline for me to have a chat, it must have been hard for him not to talk to me and ask about son, but that is his doing and not my problem. He is now claiming that he needs to sell as he as run out of money so it as taken him just two years to get shut of all his inheritance and family, everyone says they can see him heading for the gutter, but all I can say to you is watch the body language, hold your head high, think of the good times you had together, think nice things and that keeps a smile on your face, don't by any way or form let him see you are nervous or anything, definately don't cry for him, think you havent' brought it to this but he as, all I could think is that man as been able to talk to me for the last 15 years and now he wants to settle through the courts, why can't he face me and discuss things and settle out of court amicably like normal people do, he could still speak to me 4 weeks before going down this path that is when he wanted to take son away on a break, and then wam bam he can't talk to my face anymore, the thing is also that he is making a complete idiot of himself and getting himself deeper in the cart by all the lies he is telling, this is a guy that couldn't lie to save himself, now all what he as told the courts and solicitors and child support people is all lies, he is ever lying about how much wage he gets each week, just so he doesn't have to pay son anything. Sorry about being so long winded, I only hope it helps you in some way to know someone is going through what you are, I will be interested in your comments about his body language etc, keep your chin up and I wish you well.
