Is it time to cut him off?

[NikB]

I know Agent99.. I know. It's so hard.

I like your friend's idea. Focus on YOU for 3 weeks. Where does that happen? I dunno.. your house, his apt, I don't think it matters that much. But keep the focus 100% on you. If your H disappeared tomorrow, where would you be? What would you be doing? What are your ultimate goals in life? How would you pursue those?? Make it all about you, NONE about H... I think it'll give you at least some clarity what direction to go in.

Nikki- I know you are right about the more of the same and the too much pressure. The crux of the matter is that he is basically telling me that I am good enough, for now-until someone better comes along.

I completely get it because I'm there too.

So.. try this...

You deserve to be loved.

You deserve to be wanted.

You deserve to feel cherished.

Does that mean he will feel that way about you? Nope. So... feel it yourself.. give those things to yourself. And if sometime some guy (H or someone else) gives that to you, great! If not, give it to yourself.

Putting pressure on him, guilting him into it, etc. are not the key... you'll never feel loved, cherished, or wanted if you "get it" that way.

Quit trying to turn the tide... jump into your own ocean, the one where the tide is going the direction you want it to go. If he jumps in too, cool. If not.. well, he's missing out on an awesome trip.