Is it time to cut him off?

[Trixi]

My girlfriend just suggested that he is upset because he hasn't figured a darn thing out (which is the whole point of the separation), that he wants me in his life more than he can admit, and that he probably does need me to not talk to him,etc for at least 3 weeks. That she can see both of our points.

She suggested that I give him the house for 3 weeks and I go to his apartment or my friends house or my mom's. And that during teh 3 weeks we have no contact whatsoever.


I think Homer's advice is spot on. Given that his first question to me when we first got (semi)back together was whether or not I had called an ex.

I got (semi)spoiled; I got (semi)comfortable; I am getting too attached. I don't know how to be detached and actually be around him.

Nikki- I know you are right about the more of the same and the too much pressure. The crux of the matter is that he is basically telling me that I am good enough, for now-until someone better comes along.

I have been 'auditioning' for my marriage for a long time (long before he left.) I am tired. This is so painful. The momentum seems to be going in the wrong direction and I feel too weak to turn the tide. I hate that he is mad at me right now-- and the words about not pressuring him or else I'll push him away are echoing on my head. SH!T!