48 hour rule... wait it out and see. And please look into those books I mentioned.

You are so totally focused on him right now, and it's not healthy for EITHER of you. Why are you so focused on "getting somewhere" in the M??? I promise if you put this much pressure on ANY R it would be going downhill.

How about instead, focusing on YOU and on getting somewhere better?? If your H comes along cool, if not, well.. you'll be fine.

Please try to see how much pressure you are putting on him. You asked him to plan your weekend AGAIN. You worked your life around what he wanted A G A I N. This is so much more of the same. You're asking someone who's not even sure he wants you to court you - how does that make any sense??? Make yourself irresistable, first... be so proud and confident in yourself that you KNOW you are worth it, and see what happens.

I'm not trying to beat you up, hope you know that - I'm trying to tell you that you're not watching out for yourself, and you NEED to. Heck even your WAH is trying to tell you that.

If it were me instead of canceling the lessons I'd try this: show up next time BUT be a whole new Agent99. One who is strong, independent, whole, able to plan her own social life and free time. One who has respect for herself.

(((Agent99)))

I know how hard this is, I REALLY do.

Last edited by NikkiB; 10/11/07 05:32 AM.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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