Friendly - okay - I don't know what NWOH looks like, but I do have the image of him bellydancing in my head now...I do believe he has his uniform on.....hmmmm.....
NWOH, you don't need me to tell you this, but you are trying to reason with someone who is unreasonable at this point in her life. My H went nuts (although didn't spew) when he found out that I had a meeting with a L...even though he told me that I should contact an attorney. You are trying to make her see some sense - it just isn't going to happen now. She is not in a place to do that.
When she is spewing at you, can you just say something to the effect of "let's talk later, now doesn't seem to be a good time". Why ruin your day?
I know, I know, easier said then done.
Hang in there. Try the belly dancing. Couldn't hurt. Might help!
