EVERYONE, I HAVE GREAT NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We are back together...My wife realized that I was the true one she loved and wants to be with and like everyone told me on here the OTHER MAN was nothing but a user and a horrible person. I prayed everyday, and with the support of God and everyone on this board , we got through it...Again I appreciate all of the warm thoughts and wishes. Everyone on here is so great, I can't thank everyone enough for wanting to help out a perfect stranger. I will have everyone in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that everyone will have the happy ending that I have been fortunate enough to receive. I will never take my family or friends for granted ever again. Everyone be strong and hang in there and may all your wishes come true. You are truly a great bunch of people. Much love and happiness to all of you.
I couldn't be happier for you GISH!!! I was thinking something horrible happened, thank goodness. I hope and pray you guys can work through all this and come out with an even better marriage.
Thank you. I really truly hope that everyone else on here can work things out with their spouses because I sincerly feel that EVERYONE on this forum is just a great group of caring people and I from the bottom of my heart I hope that everyone finds the happiness that you all deserve and that your spouses realize how great this group is.
This is great news! Now remember, you're on a new road from this point forward. It's still going to be a lot of work, but it looks like you've turned the corner. Marriage takes a lot more work than we are all led to believe. Look into couples counseling, keep up the GAL, and continue to follow the DB/DR techniques.
Most important, continue to see your physician and/or psychologist for treatment of your depression. Never take that for granted.
And please continue to relate your progress over in the piecing form.
You are your wife have been through a lot. But there are still many bumps in the road. Go to the Retrouvaille website http://www.helpourmarriage.com and see if you can't find a nearby location to do a weekend together. The weekend will give you the communication skills you need to get through whatever problems come your way in the future. It is the best thing for a marriage. Congratulations on winning your wife back. We are all very happy for you.
you KNOW how happy I am for you. Keep working on the M. Remember you have had your 'kick' into action and now you got to work at it for ever. Go into piecing. Be an inspiration for others. I am so happy for you.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
You and your W need to go for some R counselling to make sure this does't happen again. Please don't stop your meds yet. Keep going and go and see your doctor again.
Burn that underwear if your W bought it for OM, or cut it up or something and go buy her something nice from you.
I am just so happy for you.
((((HUGS))))))))
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Hello everyone. I didn't think I would be posting so quickly again. We are still together but I really want to eat a bullet. My wife has been back for 10 days now and the first 6 days were great. She was apologetic, loving, etc. But now the last 3 days or so have been a emotional terror. She's been questioning herself coming back now. She says it's the same old thing at home. She said there is nothing in the relationship and questions that she didn't give it enough time to be on her own. Remember SHE IS THE ONE that wanted to come home 10 days ago. She kissed me, hugged me, cried, said she loved me and was so sorry. She said I was her best friend and that I was the only one important to her, etc. We made love with so much emotion, etc and she "finished" during lovemaking. So now I feel I'm back to square one. How can she so openly be glad to be back home and telling me she loves me and holding hands (which she never does) to being cold and standoffish and questioning everything. She broke her apartment lease and even went back to a joint bank account and canceled her single acct. But now she has cold feet about dissolving our separation agreement. 7 days ago she couldn't wait to sign the papers to get rid of the separation agreement, now she wants to hold off and think about it? WTF is going on here????
going- I'm no expert here, but a couple of things come to mind. First, as I understand it, putting the pieces back together is a long and difficult process, full of clinging and fleeing. I believe that this is typical.
Second, the best place for you to pose this question is not on this board, but instead the Piecing Our Marriage Back Together Again thread. You will find many experienced people there who can better help you. There is even a "newcomers" thread.
Because most of us here have never been where you are!!!
