Jack, Thank you for your reply. Also thanks for the BB tip--here is the first place I have ever posted anything.
I like the poker-party analogy, and I will remember it!
Your answer to the feeling pathetic question was also so right-on that I felt the tears well up (I don't cry much, and I always thought that "I don't scare easy!" Life is humbling.).
It is funny, Michelle's book spoke truth to me in many ways, but the funniest thing was that I HAD been feeling like I was dealing with an alien in my husband's body, and then she said it. I like your way of putting it, too! I will try to remember this guy is only temporary, and try not to spend too much time trying to peer too far down the road.
