Before you get lambasted, try to keep your posts limited to one thread, it is far easier for us to keep track of you this way, and it doesn't clutter up the BB anymore than they already are.
Nice to met you, sorry your here, life isn't fair.
First question, At this point in time, Invite once and do not keep asking if he is going to come. Think of him like a co-worker. Unless you are the type to keep bugging a co-worker to attend a poker-party. In which case learn this lesson now. Inviting someone to do something once is ok, reminding once if they were wishy washy on the commitment is acceptable any more than that probably not a good idea. If he rejects an invitation, do things a few times without before extending another one.
Second question. You feel pathetic? Did this man make you the woman you are today? Or just a married woman? If this is MLC you aren't waiting for this particular turd-head personality to choose you, you are waiting for the guy you married to pull his head out of his butt and realize that you are still there. That's what you are doing by waiting. Not this 'new' guy, he is only temporary...no time limit on temporary. (provisio) Your dignity is something you had prior to him, as is your self respect, use this time to find it again, on your own.
How do you do this? I won't quit today, I more than likely will not quit tomorrow, but lets see what tomorrow brings. Rinse repeat on each new today.
Do not look far down the road, the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step, you get through it by pulling yourself along one mile post at a time, if you only look at the end goal, you'll quit out.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
