I myself am lost at to whether I am standing or not. Some days I just want to throw the towel in (especially lately) but other times I want my marriage back. I will not however tell anyone to just throw the towel in, it's a personal choice.
BND, you wrote:
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It is not about false hope, it is more about having an abundance of patience
Maybe this is where I struggle. After 2 years of this MLCBS, I am just tired. I was starting to think that I was just giving myself false hope in standing for my M when my H is clearly not interested in any part of US. It's so hard to hold onto hope when the WAS shows no signs of wanting the M. I sometimes feel like standing for my M gets me stuck in a rut of fantasy instead of living in reality. How can I find the patience and hope again? I am struggling with that.
I know a lot of posters here mention that my H is one of the worst here, so sometimes I feel like he is too damaged to expect him to ever come out of this.
