CVA - thin PJ's & Massages

[savingus77]

GD - I think you are on to something with the mandatory MC at 6 years.

So since there seems to be a distinct pattern here - CVA - how does the staging of the bombs work. When is the next one supposed to come after 7?

[Not Much Left]

Every 2 yrs as stupid guys like me forget what we learned while it was happening!

[new_attitude]

Hi CVA,
I hope you were able to reflect on your many good memories on your anniversary. I know it must have been a hard day for you.

[Not Much Left]

Hey NA!!!
Yeah, I always think how blessed I have been, how lucky. Regardless of how this turns out, I am a lucky man as Michael J Fox wrote about.

Thanks for your thoughts.
C

[MissingMyHoney]

Going on 10 and our anniversary is next year April.

waxing = Duce Biggelo. Ouch!
thongs = hmmm
boobs = Janet Jackson

[chicki]

Hey CVA!

So did the W acknowledge in any way shape or form the anniversay??

How's your PMA today???

[Not Much Left]

Yeah, uhhhhh, NO she didn't say a word. Spoke to her last night, she asked when I would be back today, I told her and I just said bye. I truly think she can "just" now see me detaching and not worrying / caring about her every move despite the fact that we are together as a family a lot


The more I am away from her the more I want to be away from her, does that make any sense? Didstance is not making the heart grow fonder for me right now at least.

C

[chicki]

I know exactly the type of detachment your going thru. I was once ther and I need to go bak to that again. I even told H when he started to pull me back again...I said you know the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder? Well, its not working for me, the more I dont see you the more my feelings seem to be sliping away..

The detachment will be good you'll start to get your self esteem up and start to really enjoy life w/out her...

H cant beleive I am going out tonite bymyself....oh well

[Nomopo]

Hey Buddy!

How'd the flirting go last night? Any good banter?

I truly think she can "just" now see me detaching and not worrying / caring about her every move despite the fact that we are together as a family a lot

Yep, and this is GOOD. And this is what OT says about my sitch, and she's probably right. Some times you can't rush these things. They just take time, like baking a cake. You have to let things happen. So, wish we could have gotten oursleves to this point sooner, but no use worrying about that. Time to look forward, and let our WASs do whatever it is they will do.

The more I am away from her the more I want to be away from her, does that make any sense?

Uh, yes it does. That is the ESSENCE of detaching, I believe. That's why it is so good for you (and me). It's the whole, I desire to reconcile with my W, but don't need to. It's the diminution of desperation. It's the beginning of your ability to truly see what is and will be best for CVA

Distance is not making the heart grow fonder for me right now at least.

Also good. Your heart does not need to grow fonder. If anything, it needs to be less fond for now (and for a while), and maybe forever (but only time will tell on that one).

Hang in there buddy! You're doing good (believe it or not).

Nomo

[Not Much Left]

Not a lot of flirting but stared a lot. Talking biz most of the night. The only reason I am looking forward to being home is to be with the kids. I guess I am coming to realize how my W did not really care to see me all the time. Hmmmm.