"Maybe you should see a doctor", might be viewed as a major 'attack' against him and his 'manhood'.. which would make your/his problems worse in that area, most likely.

What about if you just stick to the "you hardly ever touch me, why is that?" angle ?
(although I think you'll probably just get the same old answers you've gotten before. Same behaviour == same response)

But if you put it this way, then if he opens up about feeling insecure about his ED type issues (even if he doesnt call them that), then I think there's more of an opening for you to suggest that he might talk to a doctor about it. Since that way, he has admitted that "he has a problem", rather than you telling him, "you have a problem".

It doesnt sound like you telling him "you have a problem", is going to get him to agree that he does.

PS: nice suggestions below from fearless, on a potential tactic to bring up the ST.


Last edited by Dom R; 10/10/07 07:23 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle