A., I love that you started this thread. I think it's very important to reaffirm all the positive reasons for being here.
I am sure some people wonder why people like me are still here, given that my marriage ended in divorce, and that I quit standing for my marriage.
I am still here for a lot of reasons.
I still post in order to try to help some people who are still caught up in the drama and despair to see that it does get better, you can get to a place where you view your situation and your life differently, even if the outcome is not what you would hope.
I still post in order to try to help my friends here, who have so often helped me.
I still post in order to try to lend support to those here who are still standing, who do still have hope for their marriage, to encourage them to have faith, and give it over to God.
I still post in order to try to learn and grow, to understand what my MLC Ex-spouse is going through, to try to develop compassion for him, and to try and become a better person.
I still post here because I still have faith in love, and relationships and marriage, and while none of those things may ever come back into my life, I still want to be reassured and reminded that they exist and they are possible.
I still post here because some days I just want to laugh and be silly because I need that in my life, and nothing quite does that for me like blibbering about sports and doodles and beavers and tequila and shoes.
And last but not least, I still post here because, it is here, in this place, where I have found some of the people who are most dear to me in my life now, and my life has been forever changed because of it.
There's nothing about this place that could be characterized as ineffectual or pointless. But like so much in life, you will get from it what you give to it.
