I hope you didn't send H the little reminder email about D. Unless you want one why send it? It makes it sound like you want the D, and by not sending it you are allowing him time to figure out if he really wants OW or not. The reality of living with her may end up being negative. I really think your best bet is to be as dark as possible and let him figure out if the situation with OW is so great. Living with her and the child may lead to a huge wake up. The relationship is no longer in the fantasy phase, now it's time for reality. I'd give that some time. It sounds like a situation that could potentially become a big headache for him. Go GAL and have some fun!!!!

I personally think it's okay to snoop, or be aware of what's going on, as long as you don't read too much into everything, don't pull stuff out of porportion, and just think of it as informational. Basically I like to avoid surprises, but it's important not to make ASSumptions.

That doesn't mean he won't file for divorce. I'd be mentally prepared for that one. But don't remind him! Don't be a "MOM" to him. It sounds like he's living with a "mom" (and it's not even his own child!). That type of situation generally loses its charm after awhile.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.