Okay, but I still believe that CVA's W knows he still cares about her and wants this M to work. Knowing this, her not getting a card, gift, comment, etc, might be something that will a) show CVA's becoming less inclined to work on the M if she isn't, and b) tell her that she may need to be doing some thinking about which side of the fence she wants to be on. I think this is good for the sitch. If they reconcile and she brings this up and says how it hurt her, then CVA can always address his reasons for not doing it and explain how it was not malicious. It is her problem if she is a hypocrit about it -- not CVA's. He must do what he thinks is best for him in the long run and not the immediate. She will reflect in due time and realize that she shared the blame too if she herself didn't acknowledge the anniversary.
