Hey d. \:\/ I've had a rough couple of days, so am just now wandering over here.

I'll just reiterate what everyone else has said. He probably just can't give you more right now. But you're not moving backward. So, it's okay to pause for awhile. We all need to catch our breath sometimes, you know?

Um, well, I never initiate. I used to. I learned a few years ago that it almost never works. And, if I do, then he's almost always freaked out afterwards. But...xh has...issues related to sex and being touched. (I'm sure you can guess why.) He's much more comfortable if I let him lead the way. I've gotten much more understanding of this than I used to be. Sometimes I'll just make a flip comment or say that I'm feeling "frisky." If I'm feeling more brave, I'll give him a (non-sexual) massage, and if something happens, okay, if not, okay.

Azhira

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